Wow! These words (Get over it and don’t take everything so personally) are meant for myself yet perhaps they apply to you too! I know that I often take what other people say to heart. I often find myself hurt by their words or actions and then I ‘re-act’ to them. This often causes a chain reaction. My re-action then manifests hurt feelings for that person who I re-acted to and so on and so on. At some point, someone must jump out of the loop, take a look at the greater picture and let go of it. Let go of whom said what, and who has been insulted or hurt and get over it and grow up!

    We often do not think before we speak or before we give unsolicited advice. Have you ever noticed that when you start to share your feelings with someone, they immediately try to fix it or tell you what to do to fix it and all you wanted is for someone to compassionately listen? I feel we all need to learn to be more sensitive to people and where they may be at in the moment. I also feel we all need to be more compassionate with people when they are acting up emotionally. Perhaps they are unhappy and are calling out for love, attention, appreciation, help or compassionate understanding. That doesn’t mean that we have to fix anything for them or even say much. Often we need to listen and be loving and compassionate. Allow the God/Goddess in you shine bright enough to connect with the God/Goddess within that person. Ah, but I feel that we may only be able to accomplish that if we don’t take everything personally!

    As we all know, many people are extremely stressed with way too much to do and they feel overwhelmed. Some people are stuck in jobs or lives they are not happy with or they think they are stuck. Or hormones could be raging! Sometimes the stress is manifesting because they are lacking spiritual connection and time to commune with God and nature. We are all human and we all have the stresses of everyday life. So let us remember to have compassion and understanding if someone is rude. Let us remember that we, too, sometimes act that way. And let us remember to forgive ourselves when we act that way.

    Don Miguel Ruiz wrote a book that has been very popular. It is called The Four Agreements. The Four Agreements are a tool for transformation, leading you to stop judging, mainly yourself, and to start practicing another way of life.

The Four Agreements are:

• BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

• DON’T’ TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

• DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life.

• ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

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May we all be blessed with love and compassion for ourselves and others.